High School Fads, 1944
Ok so now I’m on the look out for lesbians with hair bows in the back
I just like how the bow on the left is a ‘signal and a chllange’ it’s like yeah, Betty’s been going steady with Tommy for a few weeks now, but let’s see if Ronny can step up his game before Betty becomes a right bow kind of girl
can i use ‘she wears her bow in the back’ as a euphemism now?
By all means, do it.
HAVE YOU EATEN RECENTLY?
ARE YOU HYDRATED?
IS THERE MEDICATION YOU NEED TO TAKE?
HAVE YOU LAUGHED TODAY?
FRIENDLY REMINDER BECAUSE I KNOW I NEED THEM EVERY SO OFTEN.
ALSO HERE HAVE A KITTEN:
YOU I ACTUALLY FORGOT TO TAKE MY MEDS TODAY
this is the third time this post has reminded me to take my meds
we’re all gonna die
dude i haven’t had any water today or taken my meds thank you for this post
do u ever just want to touch someone’s hair so badly that u get upset like their hair looks so nice and u just want. to touch it. because it looks. so nice
She is Very Protective of Her Ducklings
Please stop what you’re doing and look at this
Alright tumblr fam! Here we go!
I have 14 days to raise $8,500 for top surgery. I can’t do this without your help and I really appreciate anything you can give! I’ve also created tons of fun perks (like handmade stationary sets! and zines!) which you can claim on my donation page right here:
For those of you who don’t know me yet, here’s a little more information!
Hey lovelies! I’m Myles and I’m a fem transsexual man hoping to have top surgery in March. Because of the unexpectedly early surgery date, I’m now rushing to fundraise and could really use your help. This procedure is both life-saving and life-changing for me, so please donate if you can! Every little bit helps and I am so deeply grateful for anything you can give.
Being “visibly trans” has made it very difficult to get and maintain jobs. I’ve been let go from two jobs already for being trans, and I currently work two jobs just to cover my rent. I’ve tried hard to save money for surgery and I managed to scrape together the $500 deposit the surgeon requires. But the $8,320 price tag for this surgery is way out of my range.
I’ve struggled with dysphoria for a long time, finding myself in psychiatric programs because of the depression and anxiety it’s caused me, and I’ve been blessed to find so much relief since starting hormones. Recognizing myself in the mirror for the first time is an incredible experience.
But I am still struggling everyday with having large breasts. I bound my chest for years, causing myself severe back pain. Now I walk around in the world with my unbound chest and receive stares, harassment, and threats of violence nearly everywhere I go. This surgery will help me to feel safe in public and at home in my own body.
I know it’s super cheesy but I feel like I’ve been in a little cocoon all through my transition. For me this surgery is going to help me burst out of my cocoon and finally see my wonderful butterfly self reflected in the mirror! Please help me make this a reality by donating and by sharing this campaign far and wide!
Thx for reading, you are all angels <3 <3 <3
We’re so so close! Just 3 days and $1,100 left!
Today I want to talk about Polyamory because it’s something that gets brushed over and ignored quite a lot. It is also often misunderstood and seen as identical to patriarchal polygamy, and many polyamorous individuals are shamed for it.
Let’s start with what Polyamory IS. A polyamorous individual practices, desires, or accepts having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. This is NOT the same as someone who cheats on their partner. It is also distinct from swinging which emphasizes sex with others as recreational only.
Polyamory is also not the same as having commitment issues. Polyamerous individuals are fully committed to all of their partners, or to a single partner while still holding feelings for other people.
Polyamorous individuals are legitimately in love with more than one person. To them, love is not a limited commodity - in other words, they are capable of wholeheartedly loving multiple people at once. They also go against the idea that love is “scarce” and that a person can only have “one true love.” [Source] To a polyamorous person, love is abundant and unrestricted in this way.
Polyamory is in essence on the opposite end of the spectrum from aromanticism, and while how a polyamorous individual chooses to act on their feelings is within their own control, they are no more capable of not being polyamorous emotionally than an aromantic individual is capable of forcing themselves to have romantic feelings. Romantic orientation is a real thing, no more controllable than sexual orientation.
Again, it must be stressed that romantic orientation toward multiple people and cheating do not go hand in hand. Cheating is an act of breaching the trust in a relationship. Polyamory is cheating only when it’s non-consensual or multiple relationships exist without the knowledge of one or more significant others.
Kinds of Polyamorous Relationships Include:
-Polyfidelity: multiple romantic relationships with sexual contact restricted to only specific partners in the group
-Sub-Relationships: distinctions are made between primary and secondary relationships (e.g. most open marriages)
-Triad Relationships: three people who are romantically involved
-Quad Relationships: usually a relationship between a couple and another cuple
-Polygamy: in which one person marries several spouses (who may or may not be married to, or have romantic relationships with, one another)
-Mono/Poly Relationships: where one partner is monogamous but agrees to the other having outside relationships
-Open Relationships: where participants may have sexual liaisons with others not within their core group of partners. Note that some open relationships may be open only sexually, while exclusive emotionally, or even vice-versa
In all of these examples, note once again that informed consent is key in all polyamorous relationship forms.
Polyamorous groups have attempted to define a set of values for polyamorous relationships. These stress that fidelity is faithfulness to the promises and agreements made about a relationship (a secret sexual relationship that violates those accords would be seen as a breach of fidelity); emphasize respect, trust, and honesty for all partners; polyamorists often advocate explicitly negotiating with all involved to establish the terms of their relationships, and often emphasize that this should be an ongoing process of honest communication and respect; poly relationships often involve establishing specific boundaries, or “ground rules” (for instance, consultation about new relationships); gender equality is also a common value as many polyamorists do not believe in different relationship “rules” based on gender, a point of contrast with some forms of religious non-monogamy which are often patriarchically based; and finally, most polyamorous individuals and their partners place value on non-possessiveness, viewing excessive restrictions on other deep relationships as less than desirable, as such restrictions can be used to replace trust with a framework of ownership and control. [Source]
Like other sexual minorities and members of the LGBTQIAP community, polyamorous people face discrimination, misunderstanding, hatred, and contempt on a regular basis.
I suspect no one will reblog this because people don’t seem to give a shit about anyone besides the LG in LGBTQIAP. But these people exist and they matter and they are seriously discriminated against.
Having marriages with multiple partners is illegal in most places and polyamorous people are near-constantly called “sluts” and generally shamed for their feelings.
Having multiple consensual relationships doesn’t harm anyone. It doesn’t somehow ruin the sanctity of your monogamous relationship or marriage.
There’s also a huge historical precedent for polyamory.
In China, “traditional culture does not prohibit or explicitly encourage polygyny (one man, multiple women)” and “polyandry, the practice of one woman having multiple husbands, is traditionally considered by the majority Han as immoral,” however, “amongst other Chinese ethnicities polyandry existed and exists especially in mountainous areas.” [Source]
“North American Tribal marriage practices vary from tribe to tribe, but the majority of tribes practice some form of polygyny. All sexual practices can be found throughout the tribes, including polygny, polyandry, wife-swapping, premarital sex, extramarital sex, and monogamy, however it is rare that monogamy is the sole sexual practice found in any given tribe." [Source]
And when I studied Viking Age Scandinavia for my history thesis, I came across many instances of polyamorous relationships which were totally acceptable until the adoption of Christianity (and even persisted for some time after it, infuriating Church leaders).
If you’re interested in polyamorous relationships, Robert Heinlein’s 1961 book “Stranger in a Strange Land" is a highly influential work that depicts plural partnerships.